My life’s work is helping people deepen intimacy, feel fulfilled and connected in relationships, celebrate their authentic sexuality and live their full erotic potential.

Work with Ilil

What is

relationship and sexuality coaching?

We all desire more love and pleasure in life, but without guidance it can feel like an uphill battle.

This work will equip you with new skills, help shift limiting beliefs, and enhance your experiences around relationships, intimacy and sex. 

As a Certified Relationship and Sexuality Coach, I celebrate exactly who you are on each step of your journey.

My goal is to help you connect deeply to yourself, and build tools to live to your most authentic and pleasurable potential.

EXPERIENTIAL LEARNING - it takes more than just talk to create lasting change. In order to unlearn deeply ingrained sexual or relational patterns, we need to be able to identify these behaviors and learn to shift them.

How?

We will combine talk-based coaching with experiential, embodied practices that engage you with tools you will be taking away from each session.

My sessions are interactive and lively, a safe space to have real-time interactions with support, guidance, and feedback all the way through.

How can relationship & sexuality coaching help you?

  • Skill Building

    Reconnect to your own Pleasure

    Become a better lover

    Learn and love your turn-on’s

    Recognizing and communicating need, desires and boundaries

    Master the art of flirting

    Lack of experience? build skill and confidence

  • For Couples

    Deepening emotional & physical Connection

    Reviving desire & passion

    Differing Levels of Desire

    Sexual Dissatisfaction

    Communication skills

    Relationship repair - growing from challenging moments.

    Expanding your sexual menu

    Exploring & sharing fantasy

    Exploring non-monogamy

    Designing you own relationship structure

    Reconnecting After Children

    Infidelity (Heal, Survive, Reconnect and Thrive)

  • Dealing with Challenges

    Female

    Low libido

    Difficulty to orgasm

    Pain during Sex

    Male

    Erectile dysfunction

    Premature ejaculation

    Delayed ejaculation

    Performance Anxiety

    Fear, shame and trauma around intimacy

    Body shame

    Porn "addiction"

    Tricky turn-ons

Book a free consultation call

ILIL LUNKRY

Email: ilillunkry@gmail.com

WhatsApp : 02 26 91 99 82

About Ilil

“Intimacy and erotic empowerment isn’t just my job, it’s the stand I take in the world”

Ilil is a certified sex, intimacy and relationship coach who is passionate about helping clients reach their full potential for pleasure, connection, and love. In her sessions, she creates a judgement-free, empathetic, and safe space that celebrates every type of person. Her joyful personality naturally encourages playfulness and humour, and creates an warm space to engage in.

Ilil works with individuals and couples of all genders, sexual orientations and relationship structures. She offers sessions internationally via zoom, and in-person in Nelson, New Zealand.

What people are saying

‘‘I am so thankful to feel safe to express aspects of my sexuality in which I have suppressed & judged, and haven't even exposed to my therapist as I felt ashamed of it's uncommon nature; however these aspects of myself are the very pathways Ilil has helped me rediscover in which helped me heal trauma and reclaim my power and sense of safety in all areas of life’’

S.L

“I am so grateful for the tools that Ilil showed me and the impact they had on my sex life and day to day existence. Learning about how to ask for my needs and how to use boundaries to create safety and feel more and deeper pleasure was life-changing.

The experience of learning was so clear, succinct and empowering that I felt stronger and more confident in myself just by interacting with her. I wouldn't hesitate for a second to recommend Ilil to anyone who wants to work on themselves and their sex life”

W.H