The 9 Steps of Relationship Repair have been developed by the Somatica Institute. These steps are:

1. Recognise You’re In An Emotional Conversation

2. Gauge Your “Activation” Level

3. Give Your Partner the Benefit of the Doubt

4. Decide Who Goes First

5. Share Vulnerably

6. Listen and Respond Empathetically

7. Acknowledge Your Patterns

8. Provide Reassurance

9. Reconnect With Your Partner

We'll be exploring each of these steps in detail during the Relationship Repair Workshop. By practising them in real-time with your partner with the professional guidance of a relationship coach, you'll be able to make these steps a part of your daily life.

The workshop will be a combination of theory, group and partnered conversation and experiential exercises to learn, practice and fully integrate all the tools and steps of relationship repair.

Somatic intimacy coaching has a strong focus on hands-on, practical learning. If you were taking a dance class, you wouldn’t expect to learn just by reading a book or talking about it – you have to practice together to learn the moves.

The same is true for intimacy; to learn, talking is not enough – you must do.

This workshop will bring together deep conversations, educational components and hands-on practice, enabling you and your partner to deeply integrate what you learn, shifting old habits and unlocking a more fulfilling sex life and relationship.

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The relationship repair process is can be applied to all your relationships, not only with your partner.

Every step is a life-changing skill on its own, and combining them all together can totally transform how you relate, communicate and connect with other people.

Consciously applying these relationship repair skills to all your relationships is a great way to ensure they become deeply integrated into your life as instinctive responses.

The biggest issues couples face are around differences in beliefs and needs around money, sex, and child-rearing.

While a Intimacy coach and a marriage coach have very similar approaches to these, couple’s therapy is quite different.

In traditional couples therapy, the focus is on talking through issues. Many therapists do not have any experiential tools to offer.

In contrast, Intimacy coaching for couples – especially if it is somatically-based or experiential – offers tactile, embodied practices that help overcome challenging dynamics in a relationship.

This approach can also be applied to intensify intimacy and attachment, providing tools for relationship repair during challenging times.

This workshop is a safe space for us to dive into vulnerable work, so it is important that we connect.

Before confirming your booking, I will contact you for a short phone call and to give you additional information about the workshop and discuss your goals.

If it's a good match for both of us, we'll send you a confirmation email with instructions to secure your spot.

Once we've had our 15-minute consultation and your booking request is accepted, you'll have 24 hours to complete the full payment.

Once your payment is received, your spot in the workshop is finalised and you will be sent confirmation of your booking.

Please note, since the workshop has limited space, we can't hold your spot for longer than 48 hours after the payment has been requested. If you need more time to process the payment, please get in touch directly to discuss this by emailing ilillunkry@gmail.com.