From
LOW LIBIDO
To
REKINDLED DESIRE
A Practical One-Day Course for Women
Your desire didn't disappear—it's been gone for a good reason and is waiting to be reawakened.
Low libido rarely happens overnight. It builds slowly over time, and for good reasons: stress, exhaustion, unmet needs, buildup of resentment, hormonal changes, or simply having sex that doesn't turn you on. The good news? Desire can be rekindled when you understand what's really happening beneath the surface, learn the right tools, and get help from a professional.
Why Join This Course?
If you're in a sexless marriage, struggling with low libido or have decreased desire for physical closeness, intimacy and sex, you're not broken – you're human. And if you want to do something about it, you're definitely in the right place.
This one-day intensive course offers a pressure-free space to explore the underlying causes of your low libido. Through a combination of practical knowledge and highly effective tools, this workshop will help you rekindle your desire and reconnect with your sensuality, sexuality, and your partner.
Unlike medical approaches that only treat symptoms, this course addresses the root causes – emotional, physical, relational, and psychological. We will focus on:
Understanding the underlying causes of low libido.
Awakening your sensual and sexual self.
Understand your unique Sexual Blueprint, and integrate it into your sex life.
Loosen the grip of shame and self-judgement.
Build a strategy for addressing accumulated resentment.
Creating a personalised roadmap to continue the work at home.
This isn't about forcing yourself to have more sex. It's about reawakening parts of you that may have gone quiet, understanding your evolving needs, and honouring what you need to reignite arousal and desire for connection.
What You’ll Learn in This Course:
Understanding Low Libido
Explore the common causes of low libido and identify YOUR specific causes and patterns. Understand the natural evolution of attraction in long-term relationships, the difference between attachment and attraction, individualisation & togetherness, and why attraction requires intentional nurturing over time.
Awakening Your Sensual & Sexual Self
Learn how to reawaken your body's capacity for pleasure, arousal, and desire. This section focuses on strengthening your arousal and pleasure ‘muscles’, teaching you how to shift your nervous system from stress and shutdown into receptivity, sensation, and positive erotic experiences.
Releasing Shame & Self-Judgement
We’ll explore how the messages you've internalised about your body, sexuality, and worthiness directly impact your ability to feel turned on and present during sex. You'll learn practical ways to work through negative self-perceptions and be more in your body rather in your head during sex and intimacy.
Rebuild Emotional Connection
We’ll touch on how accumulated resentment and insufficient emotional connection with your partner can create distance and shut down your desire for closeness. Although not the main focus of this workshop, you’ll leave with a clear pathway forward addressing how you can resolve accumulated tension and resentment.
Discover Your Unique Sexual Blueprint
Discover your unique sexual blueprint – what arouses you physically (types of touch, sensation, pace) and psychologicaly (Mental lubrication, feelings, fantasies, dynamics). Then, you’ll learn how communicate and integrate this knowledge, bringing your key ‘accelerators’ into your sex life, so that sex becomes something that genuinely excites you.
Continuing the Process at Home
The one-day course is just the beginning. You'll leave with practical homework, including a list of personalised exercises and clear guidance on how to continue this work at home. The real transformation happens when you take what you've learned and integrate it into your life – and you'll have a roadmap to do exactly that.
One Day. Real Tools. Lasting Change.
Sign up now and begin to rekindle your desire.
Locations & Dates
Nelson - Dec 13 , 2025
Wellington - Feb 1, 2026
Duration: Full day - 8 hours (10am-6pm)
Price: $200 per person
More Info
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This course will be perfect for you if:
You are a women or non-binary and have a female anatomy,
You're in a sexless relationship or your desire has significantly decreased.
You feel disconnected from your body, pleasure and your arousal, or feel disconnected emotionally or physically from your partner.
You don't know what turns you on anymore (or never did).
You want practical tools, not just theory.
You're ready to explore what YOUR sexuality actually needs to thrive.
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This workshop combines educational conversations with practical, self-directed exploration within a safe and private space. You'll be guided through somatic exercises that honour your boundaries while encouraging curious discovery of your own body and prefrences
This workshop prioritises:
Confidentiality: What's shared in the group stays in the group.
Consent: All activities are self-directed and optional.
Non-judgment: Creating space for all experiences and emotions.
Trauma-informed approach: Recognising that each person's relationship with their body is unique and carries difficult memories.
If you are unsure of anything or want more information on the logistics behind the practice, please reach out using the contact form.
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This workshop is a safe space for us to dive into vulnerable work, so it is important that we connect.
Before confirming your booking, I will contact you for a short phone call to discuss your goals and give you additional information.
If it's a good match for both of us, we'll send you a confirmation email with instructions to secure your spot.
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Low libido, or decreased sexual desire, is the most common sexual concern women bring to my clinic. It's about experiencing very little to no desire for physical closeness, intimacy and sex, and feeling disconnected from your body, your pleasure, and sometimes your partner.
About Your Facilitator
This course is created and led by Somatic Sexologist and Sex Educator, Ilil Lunkry. Ilil brings a practice-based approach to sex education that focuses on embodied learning and the connection between mind, body, and sexuality.
Over the years, Ilil has worked intensively with women and couples dealing with low libido. Drawing on this experience, she has a created a course that equips participants with the most impactful tools and skills to overcome low libido.